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Do you care what people are saying about you? OK, everybody cares a little bit, but does it get to you to the extent it takes your focus away from everything else, from the productive stuff in your life, and starts gnawing away at your insides?
If so why? Is it because you feel the need to defend yourself and can’t? Because I’m pretty sure you’re not bothered when people say nice things about you.
I’m probably stating the obvious here, but I was speaking to a close friend of mine the other night who’s struggling with some stuff right now, and she mentioned “everybody’s always saying s**t about me when I’m not there.” I said forget about “them.” Who cares what they’re saying. Ah, she said, but you don’t understand how it is here.
And maybe I don’t, but what I do believe is you can choose to give it energy, or you can choose to ignore it.
You know that the back-stabbing nonsense is not really about you, right? You know it’s about “them.” So let them have it, all of it. And if you ever find it creeping inside your head, inside your gut, just picture Thumper saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!” then take a breath, exhale deeply and get on with your day.
P.S. I am participating in the Ultimate Blog Challenge this month – 31 days of July, a blog a day if I can. 
Superb advice, Gillian. When I work as a specialized kinesiologist the history of any condition (physical, emotional, spiritual) often reveals itself in great detail. While working with someone with seriously major issues recently the information of problems with her family came up as a main cause of her serious condition.
I asked if she knew what her Spirit was talking about she told me her parents and family have been saying awful things about her.
So here she was taking it all into her body wreaking havoc with her health all because she did what you caution and advise about here.
Your lesson is so important! Thanks.
Hi Ali – thanks. And for those doing the talking, they must be in pretty bad shape too don’t you think?
Thanks for the encouragement – I *know* this. Really.
Hearing it again is good. (and really needed). Thanks.
I LOVE Thumper’s mom’s advice! I used to say that to my kids all the time.
It’s so hard when you know others have been saying things behind your back that you cant defend, but you’re right in what you say. by letting it get to you, it takes away your energy. sometimes you need someone to tell you to get over it, to remind you how to do it, but the truth will always come out in the end. I waited 2 years for a friend to apologise for listening to rumours, but it was worth the wait. todays gossip is tomorrows chinese whisper. x
Nice post. 😉
Want to develop immunity fast- go through a divorce! OK- that’s a really bad way to develop immunity- but, if you have been through it, you know of what I speak…
That was my final inoculation!
Hi Roy – yes, that’s a rough one.
I get you, I get you, I so get you. Some days it is easier than others to ignore other people’s opinions. Thanks for posting, made my day
Thank you a million times for this very timely post! While I’m not so worried lately about what people are saying about me, I do sometimes have a sinking feeling about what I **think** others are thinking of me. You said plain and simple what I needed to hear tonight: “… you can choose to give it energy, or you can choose to ignore it.” Thank you!
Glad you got to read it Riki 🙂